Longgggg

So Conflicted.
David's [Kai's dad] mom called me about four days ago and asked to see Kaida and give her a few presents. Now the last time she saw her was on her birthday onJune 14th. I know that they have had some issues going on with his parents house being forelcosed on and such and I really don't have a problem with Diane [David's Mom] seeing Kai, but I feel Kai doesn't really remember her, and I think Kai would feel a bit uncomfortable being around them by herself, and I as a mother would feel like a bad mom for just giving my child to somone she barely knows. I have yet to call her back and give her an answer and what I want to do because I don't know how she would feel if I suggested us meeting up for Lunch or Dinner or meeting at a neutral location so they can visit with Kai and she can get to know them, and I want to do that for awhile because I do want them to be in her life because Diane has been there for me when I needed her if she could help which I do appreciate, but I feel like it's barely an effort on her part. MY grandma does SO MUCH for Kai and I feel like Diane could be doing more
and she doesn't.

PLUS I have to somehow tell her that I DO NOT want David around my daughter at all right now because he has not seen her since April of 2008, I know it would be easy for her to hear that, but David is a shitty father and she needs to realize he can't consider himself a dad and not want to deal with the responsibilities that come with it. Kai has a dad and that is Nick [my boyfriend now] and she recognizes him as the man who is always around and who will always be around and I know that David and his mom will not like to hear that news and I just don't know what to tell them.

I am really conflicted about this because I feel like I am not being fair to David and his mom by putting so many restrictions on THEIR family, but she is MY child and it should be up to me about who sees my child and how they see her and when they want to see her, but I don't feel like they would see it that way.